Why do we insist on judging people in life? It might not be intentional, and you might not even realize you are judging, but when you just automatically decide you do or don't like someone based on their name, their age, their parents or their address.....you are judging them unfairly.
There is a boy who likes one of our daughters. He's older than her and due to his age Ryan is hearing nothing of it. The problem is, I've gotten past the age, gotten to know this boy, asked plenty of responsible adults about him, talked with coaches about him, he is a good kid that is very well thought of by all those I've talked to. I'm told he comes from a really nice family. He's an athlete, never been in trouble, is very polite and just an all around nice boy. He also happens to be the same age as a boy this same daughter dated for quite some time.....so whats the problem???? Well the other boy was closer to her grade than this new boy is, so Ryan won't even get to know him. I also happen to know there are several boys in her own grade that I wouldn't even consider letting her walk through our front door, they are mouthy, inconsiderate and hang around with not so nice people....but with his rationale, it would be fine because they are her age. Whats really sad to me is Ryan is so stuck in his thinking, he won't even give this boy a chance. He's missing out on getting to know a really great charger athlete. He's missing out on part of his daughters life because she won't even mention this boys name around him for the most part.....and its not because she's not talking to the boy....it's because she's not sharing this part of her life with him because he acts so impossible when this name is mentioned. He's acting like a child pouting because he's not getting his way. And then of course, I'm the bad parent because I would even entertain this situation. I've allowed the texting, the phone calls, I've allowed him to come over....where, I might add...he was in my sight the entire time! Again, polite, makes conversation, thanks me for feeding him, he's a nice kid.
I'm not really sure where I'll get on this situation with Papa.....but I really wish he could see how his judging others is affecting his life....his attitude towards a generally great kid, his relationship with his daughter, with his wife, the way his other daughters are seeing him act so perhaps they too will shelter portions of their life from him.
This situation also really made me think and wonder if their are people in my life that I'm judging, things that I'm not doing or people I'm not getting to know because of preconceived notions. I'll be praying about this for a while I'm sure.
Are their people or situations in your life you are judging? The bible tells us to judge not, lest ye be judged. If only living biblical was as easy as judging others.
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